Today I learned something that I "already know"
aka I've already been taught it
already heard it
already thought about it
but never really ACKNOWLEDGED it (yes acknowledged is spelled like that..reminds me of fledgling...like birds. like a sparrow. They're so cute!) or LIVED it...
Ya know how sometimes you KNOW something to be true you just need an outside source to tell you it's true, too, so that you act upon it?
Well, lately for me, that elusive "something," that "it,"
is that Life is about Service
but more than that, it's about HUMBLE service.
Serving JUST BECAUSE.
DOING for others just for the act of the doing.
not for a reward
just because it's the nice thing to do
(and an added bonus of it making you feel like an awesome person/superhero (like the avengers).)
Really.
We are called to a life of service, and more specifically, to LEAD a life of service. As in being a leader.
This is all coming into my head because in my theology class (religion, faith, whatever you wanna call it), Leadership and Faith, we're reading a book/personal retreat on ministry and leadership entitled Help! I'm a Student Leader by Doug Fields.
Now lemme say, this book is not perfect.
It can get quite redundant, actually, and we're only 20 pages in.
But the redundancy is for repetition, because repetition makes memory and memory influences thought and thought influences actions...great cycle, dontcha think? Well, Mr. Fields had a point in all this redundancy, and now I can't get the concept of service out of my head.
Our assigned reading for the night involved leading as a servant.
The whole first chapter of the book, actually, concerns the fact that
to lead is first to serve,
with humility and grace (she's miss united states)
And an important aspect of that service is HUMILITY.
not doing it for the reward... my teacher said, "There's a difference between being recognized for work and working to be recognized"
and that makes SO MUCH SENSE.
It's crazy how sometimes your life and the events in it seem to have a motif or a theme for a period of days/weeks/years/etc
yes, I'm talking literary analysis-style themes and motifs #nerdprobs
Well, the theme du jour (well the sparknotes-style theme, since theirs are always 1 word and that's not REALLY what a theme is...) is
wait for it
keep waiting
can you guess it?
just try
dunh dunh dunh dunnnnnnhhhhh
SERVICE!
you're the winner of jeopardy
congratulations, captain obvious! you picked up on some subtle contextual evidence. yeah.
(sorry that was obnoxious...it entertained me when I typed it and I don't feel like removing it because it's late and I'm getting lazy..)
But I'm not kidding....
I've been hearing and thinking and reading and talking and watching about and listening to and swimming all about service lately.
I've just become more aware of how many things I do or am involved with are serving acts or are done through service organizations, etccc and have been hearing lots about it from teachers in various classes, in homilies, random radio-host talks, etcc.
Example:
I'm part of a start-up organization for our local children's hospital and we just had a major fundraiser so that's gotten a lot of news coverage (AMAZING! We feel so blessed because of it!!!! I can't believe our baby is growing up:) But sometimes I get those little selfish desires and urges at our functions to be in the spotlight. I get a sense of the bad kind of pride that I helped start this organization. I mean, I am EXTREMELY proud of the fact that we pulled this off and were able to make an organization that does so much community good
but I feel like sometimes I get the urges to "use" that service for personal gain
ya know, pad my resume, make me look all good and serving.
And to be honest, this organization isn't the only area I've felt these selfish desires and such. I'm so ashamed. I know it's only human, but I like (and this comes from pride too) to think I'm above acting so selfishly.
But I'm gonna face the facts and admit that I'm not above that. Hell, I'm way below it. Classic book definition of selfish actions and the antonym for altruism=ME. Not all the time but sometimes.
All this college resume building and application-completing really doesn't do much to help with your ego.
If anything, it builds it a little too much and makes you hyper-aware of yourself.
All of these people want to know every single thing that makes you awesome, and I, understanding how competitive the college process has become, am happy to oblige them in providing every single little detail of accomplishment of mine.
But then I start looking at my accomplishments and extra curricular activities and service not as something to do because it's what I enjoy doing (I'm just an overachiever...I like always wanting to give 100%) but as something that 'looks good on a resume.'
AND THAT'S NOT THE POINT.
School, sports, service..
none of it is about making yourself look good or giving you that "extra edge" in the college search or job hunt.
If it is, then you're missing out on the important part of each of those.
It's like you're trying to assemble a jigsaw puzzle of a painting blindfolded....
you might be able to feel the pieces into the right positions but you can't enjoy the fruits of the process because you were just going through the motions just to complete the task at hand.
School is about learning (saving that rant for another day..)
sports are about so much more than selfishness (again, gonna save it)
and service is about HUMILITY and helping others
easy as pie to look at and say
hard as balls to live out.
But that doesn't mean you can't try.
This afternoon, I came home from school to a messy kitchen.
From the surrounding quiet of the house, I deduced that my mom was already napping...
messy kitchen+napping mom=she's tired and could use a little break
So I cleaned the kitchen for her.
No big deal..but it meant something to her.
She doesn't KNOW that it was ME who cleaned the kitchen, but she knows that someone took care and cleaned up after her for once, and in that, she's affirmed just a little that she is not alone in the housework and that
she
is
loved.
Of course, Mom knows she is loved by us (speaking as the kids)
buuuuuut it's good to be reminded by something more tangible than an assumption based on genetic predisposition and hormonal ties (although I mean those are pretty tough to break...)
and what better way to show someone you love them than by humbling yourself to,
'wash their feet?'
To take their tasks into your own hands and then to go beyond that and do something that eases their life and shows them you care.
If I, in doing that small task for my mom, can help ease her day's burdens just a smidge, then I'm happy.
I'm not trying to do big things.
I'm just trying to do "small things with Great Love" as Mother Theresa would say.